As I grow older, I don't want to waste any time by having a stupid puppy love, an unsure relationship. Yes, puppy love makes us pretty happy but sooner or later you're going to waste your tears just like that. And, I'm sick of it.
If you'd like to be sure you're not kidding yourself when you imagine the two of you together in the future - look to the little things he does, not the big showy romantic gestures. Sometimes, those little things make you feel so sure about your love future.
Some of the obvious signs are :
- He's nice to your friends - From the moment he met your friends he made an effort to remember all their names. Now that you've been dating a while, he's considered one of the gang. He talks to your pals about everything from boy troubles to cramps and makes an effort to say all the right things. Don't presume that being such a SNAG is his second nature, any man who makes an effort to win over his girlfriend's posse wants to keep her happy and to be around her as much as he possibly can.
- He turns up on time - When he says he's going to be there on the dot at 8pm, he's never more than a few minutes late. And on the rare occasion he is held up he pays you the courtesy of calling so you don't have to needlessly rush to get ready. This kind of punctuality might seem an insignificant thing but it speaks volumes about his respect for you. It shows that he cares about what you think of him so he wants to demonstrate he's reliable.
- He tunes in to your every word - When you're in a mid conversation at the cafe he doesn't play with the fork nor is he distracted by the conversation at the next table. His eyes barely leave your face because he is hanging on every thing you say. He doesn't dominate the discussion by interrupting, finishing your sentences or taking the conversation in a new direction. He is genuinely listening! It is clear in the way he laughs sincerely when you tell him something funny and responds to what you are saying by giving you is opinions on the subject, making helpful suggestions and sharing his own similar stories.
- His friends know all about you - And it's not just the usual body talk like how gorgeous you are or what bra size you wear. They know what car you drive, what you do for a living, that you love japanese food but can't drink red wine because you get a rash. It's not like thay've been asking for these details - it's just that he can't stop talking about you 24/7!
- He brings up the "F" word - Not that one - the other F word - fidelity. Just when you're worried that he might think you're dating with no strings attached he says "I want to be clear what we're doing here - I want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend and to me that means being faithful to each other. Do you feel the same way?" With an enormous sense of relief and elation you say "yes" to being his girl and each pledge fidelity, your mutual trust and intimacy immediately grows. It's official: He considers you a couple.
- He takes an interest in your interests - When a guy falls for you in a big way he'll want to know everything about you and that includes a full understanding of your likes and dislikes. If your hobby is collecting retro furniture he'll have the good grace to feign interest when you spend all afternoon scouring second hand shops - although he'd rather be home working on his car. Don't worry - he's not becoming a "yes" man - he's simply trying to get closer to you in every part of your life - and sharing your interests is an obvious way to do it.
- He calls for no reason - "Hi, what are you up to?"; "I thought I'd let you know I made a reservation for dinner as I said I would and it's at 8 o'clock like we agreed" are the kind of comments that give away the real motive for this kind of call; he misses you; is head over heels for you and; can't go one more second without speaking to you. While you talk he ignores all incoming calls and signs off "I can't wait to see you again." Give him extra points for thoughtfulness if he calls you at work and is sensitive enough to realize you can't chat so he says "I won't keep you because I know you're busy but I just needed to hear your voice."
- He asks for your opinion - In just about every decision he makes, from which shirt to wear to a job interview to which kind of car he should buy, he solicits your opinion. This indicates that he respects what you have to say and that he believes you not only have good judgement but have skills, abilities and insights that can help him improve his life.
His humbleness made me fall for him.
There are numerous of a serious relationship signs and why I chose several of them? The reasons are ..
- He's nice to my friends - I can see that when he paid his attention with my best friend's love problems. He also remember one of my friends name which I forgot if I ever told him the story between the friend and me.
- He turns up on time - Yes, he turns up on time, always, every-time. In fact, he arrives earlier than me, most of the times. He never asked me to rush, unless if I late for class.
- He tunes in to my every word - He's a good listener and I love to share my stories with him. I feel appreciated.
- His friends know all about me - There's one time where he said he wanted to bring me to his buddies. Well, I can assume that his friends knew about me.
- He brings up the "F" words - Fidelity means faithfulness & loyalty. He used to tell me that no matter how many girls are close to him, I'm the one he always chase. He might likes many girls but the one he loves is only me :')
- He takes an interest in my interests - He knew that I love to shop anything that aesthetically luxury but affordable. There's once I really really had no idea which shoes I should buy and he chose the one that fit my taste perfectly. Plus, I like to have 'nasi ayam' in Dewan Makan Indera Mulia & Secret Recipe's Tom Yum Kung, and he never get bored having them too, over and over again. As the result, both of us gained weight together :p
- He calls for no reason - He called me even though he knew I'm having loads of works in the office. He even gave me his calls although he knew that I'm in car with my family. I used to scold him by doing so but now I understand why he did that.
- He asks for my opinion - He asked me where to have our lunch & dinner. He asked me about his works, do they looked okay to me or not. He asked me about our future path.